How to Connect To Your Best Self

We can get blinded to who we are by the stress of work, responding to family and friendship needs. There’s no time like the present to start focusing on renewing you! Put YOU first on your gift list. Take time to reflect, and don’t over schedule.  Create free time. If we only make time for tasks and chores, our overwhelmed thoughts cannot create harmony and balance, which are two ingredients necessary for a better connection to self.

Here are 6 simple steps to help you connect to your best self!

1. Focus on Laughter
“A day without laughter is a day wasted.”
– Charlie Chaplin. 

Your sense of humor is essential when you come across turbulent pressure from friends or family.  It is during these stressful times that you must adjust your behavior accordingly. During my day, I never run out of things to laugh at!  This prevents undo reactions from being judged or criticized. It is not taking the easy way out. We can still accept constructive feedback but with a smile.  Laughing with ourselves as we grow is connecting to our best self.

2. Stay Away from Gossip
“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt.

Stay away from gossiping. If issues arise, discuss it with that person directly.  If you fail to share your problem directly you are misdirecting your anger or frustration. Seize the moment, take the opportunity to grow and flourish yourself and elucidate your friendship. Expand and grow together, your friend should be honored that you chose this venue to discuss your differences.

3. Focus on your Positive Journey
“Life is to be lived, not controlled; and humanity is won by continuing to play in face of certain defeat.”
– Ralph Ellison. 

Amplify the positive in situations and let go and release those things you cannot  control. Control overwhelms and exhausts us.   Recognize that being defenseless opens the door to freedom.  Learn to trust your inner voice. “It is not about the destination or the journey, it is about who you become along the way!” – Jana Stanfield.

4. Focus on Being Grateful
“I try to be grateful for the abundance of the blessings that I have, for the journey that I’m on and to relish each day as a gift.”
– James McGreevey
There is no perfection. No one is immune to personal faults and failings. There are triggers that make life a bit uncomfortable for us. Our target is to move beyond those digressions. Purposely moving forward out of our comfort zone enhances and shines that hidden treasure which makes us beautiful and shine. Create that environment where things and objects are out trumped by love of you and dear friends and family.  That is what makes me very grateful. That challenge of connecting to my own best self even if out of my comfort zone helps me find growth and joy on my journey! As I recognize those negative triggers, I can dedicate myself to my well being by acknowledging that which is uncomfortable and continue moving forward.

5. Celebrate Those Connections
Be sure to dance with joy and ecstasy on those connections. Do not betray your own soul. Be true to yourself. Connect with humor, gratefulness and positive thoughts of life and its gifts. Occasionally you will disappoint another by being true to yourself. That too is a connection of faithfulness to your own “BEST SELF.” It connects you rather than isolates you.  Your well being should be paramount in choosing behaviors that are not harmful to you or others!

6. Be Authentic with our Inner Self
Our personal goal in life might be connecting to the worth that lies far within us, that diamond in the rough we keep hidden.  That is where our authentic connection lies. In that hidden spot that lies only within each of us as individuals!  It is those small treasured moments of connection that makes life big. Those moments of “big” is what will sustain you In your empty moments.  We reflect on cherished memories of joy and connections beyond measure for those are what make our lives priceless! Without a doubt it takes courage to be authentic, and determination to try a new positive direction. As you connect to your best self, your life will have very few empty moments. There is power in growing through those challenging moments where we feel uncomfortable with our choices. As you transform and move forward, you will truly like the company you keep, even if it is JUST YOU!  You will be able to feel refreshed and enjoy the principals of connecting to your best self.

So friends, lets try connecting to ourselves and feel the difference!

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With over 42 years in Education, Merril uses her passion and skill impart to each student that they can and will be successful. She is a global educator , teaching in Bali, Cambodia, Turkey, Belize, as well as traveling through Greece, Italy, Spain, and France. Her plan is to continue teaching in Vietnam, and Thailand this Spring . Merril's writing voice implements simple strategies for anyone to become that AWESOME person.